Here’s the thing:
Organic living has a stigma.
Organic pregnancy? Even more so.
Finding a like-minded mom group would have been EVERYTHING to me in those starter moments of motherhood where I felt like I was being judged for EVERY. LITTLE. THING.
I could have used some solidarity from moms who shared similar values right at the beginning — like prepping a non-toxic home for a future baby to come into, or editing my career to help me be home with those future babies more, or transitioning to more plant-based nutrition so that my body could do what it was meant to do naturally without medication.
Just the decision to start a family is a BIG ONE.
The decision to start an organic family is ANOTHER.
And while it’s considered unconventional now, organic preconception + pregnancy are the most normal things on the planet. It’s in our conventional biology.
We shouldn’t feel broken or weird going into our pregnancies; we should feel supported that we’re great moms by nature.
Mitigating that stress by having supportive relationships that get you because they’ve been there, done that — it’s a priceless gift you can give you + your baby.
But in case you need more reasons than that to join a mom group ahead of pregnancy, here they are:
Fertility isn’t always easy.
And that’s hard to remember when you’re in the thick of trying a bunch of cycles in a row, then maybe a bunch of ovulation tests + pregnancy tests + all the other tests, tests, tests…
When you’re trying to conceive, timing up that “magic window” can be both a physically + emotionally exhausting experience — for you + your partner.
So, surrounding yourself with people who might have had similar experiences to you is a helpful prep to preconception.
Knowing you’re not alone with true proof of real women’s stories is way more meaningful in those moments than just reading some bland fertility facts on the internet.
And if + when you decide to take the pressure off of yourself with all of that testing, having a like-minded vote of confidence can feel like such a huge gift.
Give that gift to yourself — whether you need to open it or not.
Pregnancy can bring out the worst in your immediate circle.
You know that saying about how you see people’s true colors around weddings + babies? Not so fortunately, I’ve personally found that to be true.
Suddenly, you may find that people you haven’t talked to in weeks (or years!) feel they’re entitled to your most intimate relationship + fertility + pregnancy details.
You may find that opinions start running rampant.
You may find that even the most well-meaning of people are coming across just straight up mean.
Or you may find yourself researching if pregnancy hormones are translatable to your parents, your siblings, your in-laws, your aunts + uncles + cousins + grandparents…
(Let me spare you the leg work: they aren’t!)
And if + when that time comes, you might want a safe place to vent with people who can swap similar stories + offer thoughtful suggestions on how to keep your relationships on-track before bringing a baby on-board.
Google is an overwhelming place for researching expectant parents.
To start, there’s an abundance of information on parenthood available to you…
And it’s in no particular order.
With no particular credibility.
Then, there’s the fact that Google announced it would be censoring the more holistic, traditional, organic health content from its search results (regardless of how many people are genuinely asking/searching for it).
So, if you came by this post by way of Google, you should go play the lottery! Because the odds of that are SLIM these days!
“Dr. Google” is our generation’s default go-to for health info, but now it’s admittedly skewed.
You might agree that asking experienced moms who have already done the organic research might be a more efficient way to curate unbiased knowledge for your family.
Save yourself the virtual digging. It’s getting harder + harder to uncover.
Postpartum depression is at an all-time high.
Postpartum anxiety + postpartum depletion, too.
Getting out in front of those experiences by building a virtual village is one of the best ways to support yourself next to hiring out a physical village!
Friendships can help hold you accountable to your mental wellness + could act as an informal screener for those postpartum challenges, too. Some of the warning signs start to show in pregnancy for some moms, too, which is all the more reason to have a bit of a safety net in place.[Disclaimer: That’s not to say that a mom group can ever take the place of a qualified mental health professional.]
When that physical village isn’t affordable or available to you in the middle of a prenatal appointment or even later during a late night baby feed, that virtual village is affordable + accessible to you if you’ve enrolled in-advance. It’ll be right at your fingertips on your smartphone.
Modern working women have different challenges today that our older moms can’t relate to.
Maternity leave in the US is a far cry from what it should be in supporting the work-outside-the-home mom.
Paternity leave is no better, either.
Brainstorming an individualized solution for your unique family is imperative — and grandma + grandpa just aren’t necessarily the people to ask these days.
You’re also not likely to want to leave those financially supporting decisions to the last minute, or to trial-and-error.
Joining a virtual mom group means you’re in the company of women who are in companies and who own companies. And that diverse group is important to have access to because the fact is: most families require 2 incomes to provide.
Figuring out that financial stability before you’re pregnant helps mitigate a potentially exorbitant amount of stress off of you + your relationship + your baby — which makes for a significantly healthier pregnancy experience for everyone (including your bank account).
Join Our Growing Community of Like-Minded New + Soon-to-Be Moms
By the time you’re pregnant, you’re likely already exposed to the judgment, the watered-down research, the workplace challenges + the emotional highs + lows for you + your partner.
Consider doing yourself a favor by joining a mom group in-advance, so that it’s one less thing distracting you from your organic pregnancy.
The good news is that what wasn’t available to me is now available to you. I’ve built the community I wished I had going into my organic motherhood.
It’s completely private — no ads, no information tracking, no censorship EVER — and it’s full of accessible FREE resources for you.
So, will you join?